Mental Health Monday is all about those little reminders that we all, no matter our circumstances, no matter our levels of anxiety, we all need to stay aware of our mental health. I had intended this to publish yesterday despite a busy morning, but at the end of the day (literally), I still could have gotten it in under midnight on Monday, rushed, and (in my mind) unfinished or I could wait until Tuesday and let that be a reminder that not everything is an urgency. Yes, some things are, but not everything.
Today I wanted to talk about the benefits of lists, and the first thing on any Mental Health Monday list is to let yourself take a break when you feel its needed.
I needed it yesterday and I ignored that feeling all day. After church and my lunch meeting, I went home fully intending to sit at my laptop and do the Monday post. I thought I’d take a short break, read a chapter in one of the books I’m in the middle of before I got started.
I fell asleep.
I woke up with a crick in my neck, so I stretched and pulled out my book again.
I fell asleep again.
This happened on and off throughout the afternoon (including the painful crick), and each time it happened I became more and more frustrated and angry at myself. I didn’t think that I must have needed the rest; I was just angry that I wasn’t getting done what I had planned on getting done.
Once I decided that I would intentionally postpone the post until today, my anger and my anxiety* went away.
[*I don’t mean that I was now suddenly free of my chronic anxiety. We all have anxiety that crops up from time to time depending on circumstances, and this was in additional to the anxiety I take medication for. It’s important to differentiate between the two, but it’s also important to treat each of them and not ignore either one.]
I’ve written previously about lists. I find them a great tool in all kinds of situations. When I was undiagnosed (for depression and anxiety) I was very forgetful. I couldn’t remember the simplest of things – did I have breakfast? Did I take a shower? Why aren’t the kids in school? Oh right, it’s Saturday. I found ways to cope – giving myself a schedule was one, getting diagnosed was a big one. I was trying so hard to not let my family know that there was a problem that I was in “fake it til you make it” mode and whatever slack I left behind, my family picked up – like cooking. I missed many school deadlines in this time and that led to all kinds of guilt, especially concerning my middle child.
One of the lifesaving tools I discovered and still utilize was making lists.
The lists range from important appointments and deadlines to seemingly mundane items like eating and showering. Some days those mundane ones are needed just to get through.
My list for yesterday was (with completed items crossed out):
Mass See Father J.
- Donation to St. Vincent de Paul (as part of Spark/GISH)
Meet M & E at bank Meet M at Panera to go over information for my new (volunteer) job Check in with home to see if we need groceries while I was out – we didn’t Home to write MHM
- Refill pill box for the next two week period
Continue reading two books.
- Begin reading final two chapters for book club.
Attendance form for kids’ school.
- Check calendar for next month’s writing assignments.
- Find free write prompt for next week’s group that I’m leading.
Group rosary by phone. Dinner.
It looks like I got a lot done, and I did. Even if you do one thing on your list, it is important to acknowledge that. That one thing could be everything (and some weeks, it is). I did also have a lot of little things on my list. They may seem little (even to me) but when I forget something it can be very frustrating. Why continue reading those two books? They’re library e-books, and often the library will take them back before I’ve finished, and I’ve tried to read them more regularly so I don’t have to go back on the waiting list, which can be quite long sometimes.
Today’s list was much smaller:
- Mass – opted not to go.
Get gas. Check out po box at new post office for new volunteer job.
- This is where I am at the moment ——–>
Lunch to write first draft of MHM-Lists
- Pick up daughter and go to Target (with lists for home and school supplies she needs immediately of course)
- Publish this MHM before dinner.
- Read books.
- Bed (hopefully early).
I think I can get through the remainder of today’s list and I know that I can make up some of the ones that I missed on Monday (like refilling my pill box and finding a free-write prompt) on Wednesday.
As we get back into the swing of things, as masks come off, and more people find their new normal, it’s okay to give yourself some time to readjust to public life. Personally, I’m still wearing masks, and I’m okay with that. And as the school year winds down, I’m making daily lists, making sure that nothing important falls through the cracks.
Try making your own lists, and let me know how you did with your week.