New Year, New You?

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​It’s not just about breaking bad habits or starting an exercise regiment. Don’t forget to nourish your soul and your spirit. That can mean spiritually, which can refer to a deeper religious mindfulness or it can be secular – something to keep your mind and body in balance as you tackle new things this new year.

For all of us, this will be a challenging year because of the new US presidential administration, regardless of who you voted for. This post is not meant to be political, but it is certainly a factor in many people’s lives. I would recommend to everyone reading this to get on your cable or dish network’s version of On Demand and watch the most recent black-ish episode entitled Lemons. It really does give a good look into what people of all backgrounds are feeling, and may help some of us who don’t understand the anxiety and fright to understand it a little bit better. It’s not even about changing minds; it’s about empathy and continued discussion.

For some of us, this is also our third new year since summer ended. Back in September and October was the Jewish New Year, and at the end of November when Advent began was the Catholic New Year and the beginning of the liturgical calendar and of course, we’ve just celebrated a global new year on January 1st. Coming up on January 28th is the Chinese New Year, celebrated by many Asian countries as well as in places like the US, Canada, and the UK where Asians live in greater numbers.

I’ve actually used each of the three previous new years to set goals and then reevaluate them when the next new year approaches. I find that setting three or six month goals, or a combination of both is a good way to not only stay on track, but also a good way to not burn myself out with too much new activity and change all at once. Another good reason is instead of just giving up on resolutions that didn’t work out too well or were to much at the start, we can reflect on what went wrong, what went right, and how do we continue down the path of change or sameness and adjust our goals accordingly.

Some suggestions that I’ve used in the past (or have been recently suggested):

1. JournalingWords, Art or both. Simple journaling can be a list of what you’ve done for the day, a list of goals and how they worked out, bullet journaling for those of us that are not into lengthy writing.

2. Jars to keep track of the good things throughout the year. I did this one year, and I loved reading all the good from the year before on New Year’s Eve.

3. Wish Jar. What are some of the things you want this year? Did you get them done?

4. Prompt jar. This is great for writers or artists who sometimes need a pick me up. It’s a good idea to drop some of our extra ideas into this jar for those dry times. We all know feast or famine.

5. Surprise Me Jar. Take a walk. Go out for coffee or tea. Go to the park with your camera. We all need spontaneity, but not all of us are spontaneous. This can often help.

6. Quotation Jar or Pouch. When you see or hear a good quotation or get a good fortune cookie, drop it into the jar or pouch and when you’re not in a good space or need a little motivating help, choose one randomly and read it. You can also use this opportunity to write about it, Instagram it, draw it, or photograph it. I was wary of Instagram, but I find that I enjoy its central visuality a lot more than I expected to. I use it nearly every day and then find a way to share those visuals here.

7. Once-a-Months. Once a month, randomly or scheduled, do something you normally don’t do. My family reads comic books, but I don’t. A few months ago, I picked up The Rough Riders. It was something different, and I enjoyed it. If you’re not an outdoors person, try a nature walk or go to a local park that’s still close to civilization. A third suggestion would be for the church-goers. If you only worship in a formal setting, look up local shrines or other religious places in your area that you’ve never been to and sit quietly, meditate, pray a rosary or something that fits into your life.

Last year, my husband proclaimed TSNTry Something New, and he and we did. It was different and we kept open minds about each other’s hobbies and interests.

TSN.

A Resolution Revolution

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One of my 2017 resolutions is to do more art so one of the things that I’ve done in the past week has been these two art pieces. The second one is similar to my I’m ^still With Her word art that I did in the fall after the election, which I’ve been enjoying more and more.

Some sketches of things that I’m looking forward to in 2017. Not a prediction or an in depth plan, and I may add pictures to it as the months progress. (c)2017

This type of resolution list was inspired by my friend, Leah. This is a six month goal set that will be added to as new goals come to mind or these need adjustment. Each item has more than the simple quick note. I will expand on them in a future post. (c)2017

Be Resolute

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My New Year’s Resolution is to be Resolute.

I’m tired of every year having the same resolution; the same goals – lose weight, walk more, be kinder, yell less, pray more, write more. Every year, I do all these things, but then I falter. Something comes up. I fall back into old habits – like drinking soda before 10am.

This year has been a year and a half, and it’s finally over. I’ve talked about the deaths, and the bad, but it wasn’t all bad. Remembering the good is just as important, if not more important.

Perspective.

My charge to myself to be Resolute is in part political, part activism, part kindness, and part mercy, and through all of that, there is my faith and my writing that I want in the forefront of who I am.

Standing up and speaking out.

I don’t know if I’ll be more political, but I don’t see how I can’t be with what’s coming in the next twenty days, but I will let it go in honor of celebrating this first day of a new year; the first page of a new book, yet to be written.

I will be writing a lot about the first amendment and the press because I think those are the two things that will be most in jeopardy in the nest year.

My recommendation is to follow journalists, and if you read opinion pieces or opinion pundits, know that is what and who they are. Be informed.

Dan Rather

Ezra Klein

Vox.com

The Washington Post

Connie Schultz

Planned Parenthood- they are very active politically on many women’s issues
ACLU,

and Random Acts for good measure because we will need more kindness and random acts than ever before.

What Am I Working On?

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I sometimes wonder…

Am I a writer or an author?

A blogger or a freelancer?

A memoirist?

A dabbler? Professional?

A nobody?

Sometimes, I don’t know what I am or what I’m doing here and elsewhere. Maybe one day it will come to me or all fall into place or whatever it’s supposed to do.I know that there are things pulling at me, and I have stories and half-written anecdotes and notes since my high school and college days. Fan fiction gave me a language and a society – a camaraderie that is often not found, even in the writing groups I’ve attended. Not belonging because of the subjects or the philosophies or the age difference – I tend to be either the oldest or the youngest. Neither one is preferable. They are both on the outside looking in.

Some of my writings are avoidance; conversely, some of my writings are avoided, each with a labyrinth of excuses and reasons, one more valid than the next.

I recently heard something on one of my favorite television shows. It’s funny to admit or even to say out loud to those who aren’t in the fandom and therefore don’t understand the inspiration that I get from this program and its cast and crew.
This isn’t the first time that their words have helped me move forward with a less than tangible hand to hold and shoulder to lean on.

“You wanna know the secret to living a long and happy life? Follow your heart. You do that, all the rest just figures itself out.”
– Mildred (played by Dee Wallace) to Dean (played by Jensen Ackles)

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A Reflection on Resolutions

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Resolutions are one of those things that everyone does, and half of them deny it. Here we are in the third week of 2015, and some of us are still deciding what we want to resolve and add to our goals list while some of us have already given up on our promises on the last night of 2014.

Last fall, I began a new format here, and it seems to have received more positive feedback than not, and even better than readership (which I appreciate and adore) I’ve been enjoying myself. My writing, at least some of it, has a plan with a concrete path to follow.

Third week of January, and I’m feeling pretty good.

I’m still laying out what I want out of this year.

I’m planning on spiritual retreats that I like to couple with my writing. I have one planned for February, and I’m hoping to be lucky enough to go to the Diocese’s spring enrichment again. I would love to go to Philadelphia in September for the World Family Conference and the Papal Visit, but I imagine that’s more money than I can afford.

For my writing, I feel that I have an introduction to what I want this blog/website to be for me and my readers, but that is ever-evolving. I want to focus on writing about my home-buying experience (in a word: traumatic), which is partly a venting and partly a warning to others. I’d also like to write about traveling and whatever that entails. I may also start book posts. I’ve already finished two great books and started a third and I would love to share my thoughts on them.

Personal, I need to work on my anxiety, reorganizing my office, ending my paper addiction, and using my library more.

I’ve stopped reading The Artist’s Way. I liked most of the things about it, but when it asked me to stop reading everything for a week, I could not go through with it. I have started the Blogging 101 project, and have tried to keep up. I may actually have an about section before the end of the month.

Next up is setting up my 2015 Mason Jar and working on next week’s spotlight on organization.

Have a great weekend.

Change is Coming

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Fall has always been my time for starting over and resolutions. I’m starting here. 🙂

Beginning next week, I’m going to make some format changes and additions. Some pages may be inaccessible for a short time.

I’m going to start five regular weekly posts. I know from the likes and the views that several readers are also writers, so on Mondays I will post a prompt and share the free-writing fun. I know I’m more motivated when I have my workshop prompts to work with instead of coming up with my own all the time.

I will also have a photo post, weekly quotation, and a recommendation post.

In addition to those planned posts, I will continue to blog and publish my writings as well as photographs and art and timely activities.

I will also be changing the categories and tags, and hopefully simplifying them.

I welcome suggestions and feedback.

Mixed Feelings (Rosh Hashanah)

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I have mixed feelings about Rosh Hashanah this year.

I had planned on observing it and keeping the kids home from school on the first day of the holiday, but it wasn’t on my calendar and I’ve made a committment to drive on of the elderly ladies to our memoir workshop, which is on Thursday (the first day of the holiday). I thought of maybe observing the second day instead of the first, but if I make a nice holiday dinner on Thursday, my husband won’t be home because he’s going to the high school for back to school night.

I may have to split the difference and do parts of each day. Have the dinner tomorrow night, go the workshop and then come home and continue with my own observance.

The liturgical year also starts in the fall, closer to November I think, I’d have to check, but that just reinforces my beliefs that becoming Catholic is an extension of my Jewish life, especially if you look at the New Testament as a part II, then my being Catholic after being Jewish is also a part II, a next chapter.

Once you are aware of all of the holidays, you can truly see the overlap, Rosh Hashanah, Passover, etc. I actually gave my take on Passover/The Last Supper to one of the presenters at the Spring Enrichment. It’s nice to be able to contribute with something I kind of know.

It’s also one of the reasons that I think joining the adult enrichment ministry is a good fit for me.