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This is a selection of my tea paraphernalia. The one I use on a daily basis is the large mug there with the viney yellow flowers, although it’s not really all that large. I have two that are larger, but one holds my pens and the other (my very favorite snowman mug) went missing when we moved.

Second is the green tea cup that is attached to my tea strainer that I use for my loose teas. I have been much better at remembering to clean it out and rinse it than I used to be.

The third one, the teeny tiny one in the center was a recent gift from a friend. It is a necklace that she sent along with some crafty cupcakes (that I did not photograph) to keep with me during my special tea times in memory of my friend that I’ve written about before.

And last, but not least, this ceramic piece was given to me for Christmas by my best friend. His was the roommate murdered (who I write about fairly often and shared tea time with her memory) and she made this tea cup, so it is very special to me. It was kind of funny, but two years ago, I was visiting my friend and he gave me his bedroom for the week, and this cup was on his shelves. I remember seeing it, and I knew that B had made it.

I picked it up and held it, staring at it for a long while. I put it back exactly as I had found it and I never mentioned it to my friend. I was incredibly touched that he somehow knew that this would be so meaningful to me when he sent it as part of my gift, although I shouldn’t have been too surprised; he has a sixth sense about him and often knows me better than I know myself.

Jiffy Pop

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I have this wonderful childhood memory of Jiffy Pop. I know that it wasn’t my kitchen, but I can’t remember which friend it belonged to. I think the stove was aqua and it was next to the back door which was left open. It was a comfortable day. The sun was shining but it was not too hot. I think it was in fact, cool.

The kitchen was a very small square room. Not that my kitchen at home was any bigger, but mine was long like a galley, narrow enough that I could put one hand on the counter and one on the stove and swing like a gymnast. I think that cost me a ride to the emergency room and five stitches in my head.

But back to the popcorn.

I still picture the metal foil rising into a balloon and the loud crackling and popping until the popcorn couldn’t fit anymore. It was wondrous. There was no such thing as microwaves at least not in our homes and so certainly no microwave popcorn. This was easy. It was fast. Jiffy, in fact. It was buttery delicious and perfect. At least, that’s how I remembered it.

Two weeks ago, my favorite show (Supernatural) had a reunion of sorts and in the promo pictures next to the rescued man watching a reel-to-reel film was a Jiffy Pop package that he was eating popcorn out of. He took them and ate them one at a time. I noticed because who takes them one at a time?

Before the show I ran to the supermarket and bought myself some Jiffy Pop. I would eat it with the characters because fandom is weird like that. I couldn’t wait to get into my kitchen and make a memory come alive.

I read the directions carefully.

Hmm, I don’t remember shaking the pan when I was a kid. I don’t remember moving it in circles against the element. No flames on this electric stove, but the directions said it was fine. I didn’t remember the smoke I think was caused from the friction of rubbing the bottom of the Jiffy Pop package on the range top. Constant smoke rising; I had to turn the fan on. It smelled awful and it was taking forever. I hadn’t even heard popping yet. How long had I been standing over this stove? An hour? Two? More likely less than five minutes, maybe six.

It was taking forever!

Finally, the popping began. Still I shook the pan and made the circles and listened to the pop pop popping. The foil made a balloon and eventually, maybe five minutes more I gave up.

I cleared the smoke.

I tore open the foil with a fork and ate a piece.

Hmm, not very good. Not at all like I remembered.

I’ll wait for the show to start and try it again.

It didn’t get much better. I ate about half and then was grateful when my teenager asked for a handful.

“Take the rest,” I said sadly.

Some things should be left as memories.

WordPress Family Award

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Thank Rachel for nominating me for this. As I said in my comment, I am truly touched that you would think so highly of me. A lot of my writing revolves around my life and the lives of my family and friends and so this kind of thing means a lot to me.

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Nominate 10 blogs who are like family to you:

1. Bohemian Spirit: (http://bohoheart.com/)

2. Brucella N: (http://brucellanewman.com/2013/01/22/very-inspiring-blogger-award/)

3. The Secret Keeper: (http://thesecretkeeper.net/)

4.  Shackled and Crowned: (http://shackledandcrowned.wordpress.com/)

5. Change for a Year: (http://changeforayear.com/)

6. Traveling Chair: (http://travelingchair.wordpress.com/)

7. Chatty Owl: (http://chattyowl.com/)

8. Pastoral Postings: (http://pastoralpostings.wordpress.com/)

9. A Penny for Your Thoughts: (http://wrightwritingdotorg.wordpress.com/)

10. Retirement and Beyond: (http://joanfrankham.wordpress.com/)

Very Inspiring Blog Award

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very inspiring blogger award

Thank you http://brucellanewman.com/2013/01/22/very-inspiring-blogger-award/

I am truly touched that you found my blog inspiring enough to nominate me for an award. I am sorry that it has taken me this long to post it to my page.

Seven Things About Me

1. I have spent my whole life in the shadows and have decided to finally come out of them.

2. I’ve written my entire life and love the feeling of finishing a piece and seeing how many people it touches. I love love love that feeling.

3. I used to hide my geekery as an apology for liking Star Trek and dressing up for the SCA, but now I am in six fandoms and counting; I write fan fiction and meta and it makes me happy and I do it pretty well.

4. My depression was a very scary place to be, but it has allowed me to become someone new while I search for who I really am.

5. I went from watching television twenty hours a day(primarily the news except for about two hours a week of Doctor Who and The Hour) to two – three hours a week (Supernatural, Doctor Who) with a couple of movies or series on my Kindle. I only watch the news when my USA Today or NBC News app tells me something has happened. I am actually less stressed and I’m also writing more.

6. I have three kids who scare me with how like me they are and how unlike me they are.

7. I don’t care about the actual number, so it’s almost funny (but it’s not!) that I am very sensitive about my age and don’t like being teased about it.

Nominate Bloggers:

1. Bohemian Spirit: (http://bohoheart.com/)

2. A Life in the Day (http://saritzahernandez.blogspot.com/?zx=7d3585c4fb06f461)

3. EvilSlutopia (http://evilslutopia.com/)

4. http://andythanfiction.tumblr.com/

5. Brucella N: (http://brucellanewman.com/2013/01/22/very-inspiring-blogger-award/)

6. The Secret Keeper: (http://thesecretkeeper.net/)

7.  Shackled and Crowned: (http://shackledandcrowned.wordpress.com/)

8. Change for a Year: (http://changeforayear.com/)

9. Traveling Chair: (http://travelingchair.wordpress.com/)

10. Chatty Owl: (http://chattyowl.com/)

11. Pastoral Postings: (http://pastoralpostings.wordpress.com/)

12. A Penny for Your Thoughts: (http://wrightwritingdotorg.wordpress.com/)

13. Retirement and Beyond: (http://joanfrankham.wordpress.com/)

Page Update

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I’ve made updates to the following pages:

Quotations

Snapshots in Time

Honors

as well as a couple of posts about the honors and some aspects of last week’s travel (there will definitely be more on this coming soon).

Unfortunately, the blog doesn’t automatically tell followers if a page is updated, only if there is a new post. You will notice that if you go to the Writings page, most of the pieces have a photo on the link even if there are no photos on the post itself. Most of these are my own photographs that I’ve incorporated into the essay. I intend to have more photographs posting on their own, so I look forward to any and all feedback.

So, take a look at some of the new things, and tell me what you think.

The Versatile Blogger Award

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The Versatile Blogger Award

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Here are the rules for accepting this award:

• Thank the person who gave you the award and include a link to their blog

• Select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or regularly follow

• Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award

• Tell the person who nominated you 7 things about yourself

• You can find more information and other winners here

Thank you to Rachel Meeks of http://doilooksick.wordpress.com

You are so supportive of my work and I appreciate that as well as this award nomination. It is nice to see my writing noticed and acknowledged. Thank you.

• Select blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or regularly follow

1. Bohemian Spirit: (http://bohoheart.com/)

2. A Life in the Day (http://saritzahernandez.blogspot.com/?zx=7d3585c4fb06f461)

3. EvilSlutopia (http://evilslutopia.com/)

4. http://andythanfiction.tumblr.com/

5. Brucella N: (http://brucellanewman.com/2013/01/22/very-inspiring-blogger-award/)

6. The Secret Keeper: (http://thesecretkeeper.net/)

7.  Shackled and Crowned: (http://shackledandcrowned.wordpress.com/)

8. Change for a Year: (http://changeforayear.com/)

9. Traveling Chair: (http://travelingchair.wordpress.com/)

10. Chatty Owl: (http://chattyowl.com/)

11. Pastoral Postings: (http://pastoralpostings.wordpress.com/)

12. A Penny for Your Thoughts: (http://wrightwritingdotorg.wordpress.com/)

13. Retirement and Beyond: (http://joanfrankham.wordpress.com/)

• Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award

• 7 things about Myself

1. I love to travel and I love to write and I would love to have a career where I could do just that.

2. I’ve been married almost 19 years and have three kids, ages 16, 8, and 7.

3. I only joined the internet community five years ago, met people I would never have met who have become people who are lifelong friends and I can’t imagine life without them. It is truly unbelievable and incredible.

4. I count myself among the Harry Potter, Daydverse, Doctor Who, Supernatural, Star Trek, and Politics fandoms and speak many others, but I also blog about things that interest me or concern me as a person and citizen.

5. My spirit home is Wales. I don’t know why, but perhaps in a past life I was Welsh. Nothing else explains the connection.

6. I’ve never had a cavity (even as a kid).

7. I love all my kids, but my daughter is a feisty, independent, brilliant girl and I wish I were more like her. Honestly, I don’t know where she gets it from. Actually, I think she gets it from my mother-in-law who has the same traits and many more.

• You can find more information and other winners here

A Perfect Cup of Tea

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I arrived at my friend’s house bright and early Tuesday morning. We had about four or so hours to begin preparations for his party the next day and he had to work an afternoon shift at his new job. I hadn’t had breakfast and I don’t think he had either, but we were very excited to see each other and after showing me his mother’s horses and meeting the dogs, he showed me the gardens: his containers of vegetables and herbs clustered around the front. I met his mother and I think she asked if he was going to feed me; I think he promised he would. I noticed the fences he’d complained about putting up and repairing last month and the rose bushes that had been planted or replanted, I can’t remember which.

When we got up to his apartment, he showed me around and we dropped my stuff off in the dining room. He told me his plans for the morning and offered me his boxes and boxes of teas to choose one. I looked through them all and after finally deciding on a loose mango tea, he told me I had to pick something in a bag because he didn’t have a tea strainer.

I may have rolled my eyes out of his line of sight.

He showed me how to use the electric kettle – a pretty neat contraption and I set out once again to find an appropriate tea. Something different, something I didn’t have at home, but after looking through three boxes twice I decided on what was right in front of me: PG Tips.

The little tea bag that looks kind of like a hackeysack. I dropped it in the mug and poured the boiled water over the tea bag. Immediately the water turned a very dark brown. I watched it steep for a few more seconds, still darkening, and then asked about milk and sugar.

Oh, that was all downstairs in the main kitchen; his parents’ kitchen. We’d be cooking in there anyway, so down we went. He suggested that I ditch the tea bag; it was looking very strong, and while I usually don’t really care for very strong tea for some reason I wanted this one to be nearly black.

I poured the milk in. I think it was an almond milk, something I’d never had before, and it did its swirly thing like a whirlpool in a bathtub. In the tea to be honest I didn’t taste anything odd or different using the almond milk. I added my usual two teaspoons of sugar, realizing too late that I hadn’t taken a teaspoon from the drawer but a grapefruit spoon.

A spoon’s a spoon, and it stirred just fine.

I took a sip and tasted it.

The tea was perfect.

Dark and strong, very tea-like with the tiny bit of airiness that the milk gave it in little spirals turning the liquid into a tanned-golden color. I sipped and I felt the warmth slide down my neck and stop briefly in my chest before it continued the journey.

And then I did it again.

Tiny sips, savoring every swallow until it was the wonderful tepid temperature that lets you drink it a little bit faster and think about a second cup.

It was then that I realized how much I’d missed black tea. I hadn’t noticed not drinking it until this cup was nearly gone.

For Lent, way back in February, I gave up Diet Coke and I read somewhere that to counter the effects of the aspartame, I should drink green tea. So every morning for Lent, I drank a cup of green tea with jasmine. I enjoyed it very much and after Lent continued with my new morning drink.

It was only in this moment, with this second to last sip that I realized that this was the first cup of black tea I’d had since Lent began. It was the middle of May; how could I have gone so long without my beloved black tea?

It was like an old friend come to call, and as I watched my friend slice the apples as I peeled the others, it was a perfect cup of tea in the perfect place.

That doesn’t happen very often. In fact, it doesn’t happen nearly as often as it should.

Trees of My Life

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I was so excited to get this prompt, but like with all of the prompts I’ve waited to the last minute and I can’t think of anything to say.

As it happens, I love trees. There are two trees at my church that I love for very different reasons. The first is the large green tree behind the main sign. Last year, I would sit there and cry after my friend died. I didn’t have a place of worship and since I had Mass said for her here, I got very attached to this tree. It was very comforting.

The second tree can be seen perfectly from where I sit in the pew, but only if the window is open. The first time I noticed it, it was raining and the angle of the window and the view I had, it emotionally came upon me as Wales, so that is my Wales tree and it brings a smile to my face whenever I catch a glimpse of it during my visits to the church.

There are other trees that I remember throughout my life. The tree in Eisenhower Park near the Amphitheatre where we would air band front for Duran Duran and I was their air photographer. If only I’d brought my very real camera, I could have been the very real photographer for the air band. I used to sit with my back against this tree and write stories. It didn’t have a name then, but now it has its own fandom, Band Fiction I think or something so obvious it’s painful.

There’s the quasi-Christmas tree that was always outside my mother’s bedroom window that finally had to be taken down when it was hit once too many times by lightning.

The trees along the road in the Cotswolds while we walked off the rain and the cider until the warden would let us back into the hostel at Stow-on-the-Wold. And he did, early in fact because he felt badly for us in their tiny town, in the rain, on a Sunday in January with no bus service. Did I mention it was Sunday?

There were the trees that we bobbed and weaved around hoping not to break anything or die trying as we slid down on a poncho along the snow covered Craigower hill in Scotland during a snowstorm. When we got to the bottom, the sun was shining.

Of all the trees in my life, I especially love the trees usually used to depict the Trees of Life. The full leafy tops and the strong sturdy bottoms with the roots finding their ways away from the trunk into the nooks and crannies of the ground, creating paths much as we create the paths in our lives.

In fact, I love the Trees of Life so much that I’ve asked my friend to sketch me one to hang in my office, but he keeps forgetting (and that’s not a guilt trip; it’s really not). It’s almost as though he forgets that sketch and I forget this essay and we both exclaim, ‘oh crap!’ at about the same time when we’re reminded with that sheepish yet confused look on our faces.

I just got back from visiting him in Williamsburg, Virginia. I will probably be writing about this a lot. There are so many prompts that I’ve been jotting down the little things for when that random prompt inspires a random free write.

To get to Virginia from New York, I took the train round trip on Amtrak. I suppose Amtrak is really the only option if you’re taking the train. The one thing I noticed, in addition to the fact that I think I prefer train travel to any other kind of transportation, is that the entire East Coast from Upstate (Central) New York to Southern Virginia is all Trees and Water with the occasional Trees in Water or Water surrounding Trees, but that despite any other scenery whether it was a big city (Baltimore or DC) or a small town (Hudson or Ashland) once you’ve slipped out of ‘civilization’ you were back in the trees broken up only by some kind of body of water.

Traveling south you could see how much of spring had sprung. The greens deepening, the branches disappearing under the close knit covering of the leaves, the ground a blanket of shaggy grass and clover and weeds and bushes all vying for the attention of the limited sun. The further south you traveled the more that spring was apparent.

The sun was also warmer down South. I had been told not to bring a jacket and I actually listened for once. Nights were cool, but not cool enough that I was cold without a jacket.

Having once arrived at my friend’s house, the trees were everywhere, clearing just enough to let the car in and reveal the house and outbuildings. It was like hiking through a forest and in the clearing there was a house, the garage, the studio, the paddock and the horses. There was the garden, both vegetables and herbs and an enclosed area for the dogs where the roses grew. It is a very country kind of place, almost unexpected for my friend whose heart belongs to the city places.

For me, that is the one thing I enjoy about suburbia-bordering-on-rural. It is close enough to do anything. It is not in the middle of nowhere although it does feel that way sometimes, but in the mornings with a cup of tea in hand, there are animals and dogs barking and branches brushing against windows in the country breeze. There is the flicker of sunlight through the thick leaves and a sturdy trunk to lean your back against, your head tilted until you can look straight up into the woven roof held together by branches and birds’ nests and squirrel fur. The sun is there and it glimmers and blinks, peeking through tiny spaces, but there is enough of a covering that your eyes are not bothered by the sun and the heat is filtered and spaced in the shade.

I always have pen and paper, but I also always forget while sitting under the tree, staring at the life we forget about in the hustle and bustle of errands and kids and work and arguments and whatever that is not in the mini-forest of home.

Despite it not being my home, the nature here – the large and the small trees, the pines and the maples, the oaks and the others – they are everywhere and if they are everywhere they are also home and so it is a home of sorts for me as well.

I don’t want to leave this home. The responsibilities are different, the bed is different, the deep dark foresty-like covering is different and I am a little different. I can be someone else here, I can be me here, and I don’t want to leave.

I think this as we drive past the cluster of trees that form the driveway and I look back once more at the house and the garden and squint to see the horse and pick a tree to be mine for when I come back, but as much as I miss the friend I was visiting, I really miss the me I was under those Virginia trees and I want to go back.

Traveling, Friending, Writing

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After seven hours on the train and a five hour layover in Penn Station, I got home just in time for the phone conference with my middle son’s teacher and my oldest son’s prom and I’m still not quite recovered from three and a half days away. I really do believe that for any vacation taken, you should be given an equal amount of time afterwards to recover from your vacation.

It’s going to take me the better part of next week to catch up on my sleep and unpack; I never unpack in a timely manner. I have to figure out how much money is left in the bank since I went away alone and at home, my husband continued to use our checking account, so I don’t know how that’s going to reconcile but must before I can pay the bills.

I went to visit my best friend, attend a fandom party for the Supernatural finale, met some Tumblr friends and got to wander around a recreated historical town as well as play around in the kitchen, meet the parents, see the gardens and taste things.

Because of such variety, hopefully I will have one or more postings to share with you. This kind of trip was really nice, especially for a writer. It’s as though I was on four or five separate trips and therefore it’s given me many prompts and inspirations as story starters:

1. Visiting friend

2. Fandom Finale Party

3. Touristy things

4. Traveling alone

5. Train travel

6. Food tastings

I’m not sure how many of them will see the light of day, but consider this my little brainstorm.

It was a very nice visit with normal stresses like getting ready for the party and making sure that I was entertained while he was at work, but it was truly a nice and special time for me and I think for him too.

I also managed to get the family a couple of souvenirs that were inexpensive as well as obligatory like pencils and candy for the kids and a shot glass for my husband. I collect pins so I made sure to add to my collection and was even able to replace my Welsh flag pin that broke a couple of years ago.

I think I forgot to mention that I have three pieces I need to write for workshop homework this week. There are two workshops, but three essays due, and as always I will try to post them here as well depending on how far they go into the personal realm. Without promising, I would also like to post daily since I do have so many ideas I’d like to write about from the trip and I’ve continued to collect prompts that I will use all through the summer until the next workshop starts up in the fall.

Tomorrow after Mass, reading the mail, making a school related phone call and two personal related phone calls, I will post something even if it’s a short something.

I’m looking forward to seeing you then.

Kb

Random Acts for Misha

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I’ve known about Random Acts for several months now when my friend told me that this coming Fall I’d be participating in GISHWHES (pronounced gish-weeze), which stands for The Greatest International Scavenger Hunt the World Has Ever Seen. It was started by actor Misha Collins and holds the world’s record for largest scavenger hunt.

Random Acts is his non-profit that raises money to do random acts for people that need a little extra something, and encourages people to pledge to do random acts of kindness for strangers.

On April Fool’s Day, the online fans of Misha Collins held a Mishapocalypse where hundreds of people on Tumblr changed their avatars to a particular one of Mr. Collins and then it kind of escalated to every single post that passed by my dash was some kind of gifset of Misha Collins – the more ridiculous, the better for the next twenty-four hours.

For his birthday, it was suggested that his fans do another Mishapocalypse. Instead, however, because the entire Tumblr being taken over did actually bother some people, something different was suggested.

Random Acts 4 Misha was born and began to ask people to ‘donate’ random acts of kindness to take place on August 20th and somehow document it with a birthday wish for Mr. Collins.

This is the link to the Tumblr: http://randomacts4misha.tumblr.com/

This is a link to someone who came up with 50 brilliant, low-cost ideas for random acts: http://trulyexpendable.tumblr.com/post/49703352342/random-acts

This is the link to the Random Acts organization: http://www.therandomact.org/

I’m not sure what I’ll be doing but I know that I’ll be doing something. I am an ardent fan of Misha Collins (and his wife, the PhD and author) and I have had many random acts done for me in a variety of ways that I would like to pay it back, or forward really. It’s not a trade, one for one, but it’s been so nice for me to have received them that I want to share that joy with others, and I know that Mr. Collins would really love it being done in his name.

Anyone interested, please remember to coordinate with the above Tumblr I’ve provided the link for. They are in contact with the Random Acts people and there are restrictions about raising money, so since it’s an official activity, they want to know who is doing what, especially in the case of money.

This is where I love this fandom; coming together and supporting the things that are important to all of us as a member of the world. It reaffirms my faith in humanity and the goodness of people.